intricate.

sometimes I think that we over-simply things.

we want everything to be quick & now,

and that impatience can spill over

from work and deadlines and such,

into our relationships.

it's so detrimental that I get tongue-tied thinking of it.

it sounds dramatic.

but I know that the way that we speak has such an amazing effect,

and most of the time we barely have a clue what we're saying.

we'll tell a friend that we like/don't like something they did.

we'll say so flippantly,

so carelessly,

and the next moment we'll forget we said it.

fast forward,

this friend has dwelt on that word for weeks and things blow up for them in an unfathomable way.

it's ridiculous,

words shouldn't be so effective,

so often.

but they are,

that's the fact,

and we have to deal with it.

we have to deal with the fact that  we need to think,

really think about all the things that we're saying,

or want to say,

to someone.

the thing is,

if we don't do this,

we turn into careless crazies who always think they're right.

never feel the need to check themselves

and ask if what they're saying really needs to be said.

and that's the intricate,

detailed,

ridiculously elaborate part of it all.

that we have to make time,

to take time,

to make sure we're being uplifting.

it can take one silly comment

to ruin someone's life.

you're held accountable for that,

whether you want to believe it or not,

you are.

and it's sad and its hurtful,

but that thought always makes me want to be more thoughtful,

all the time.

"a gentle tongue is a tree of life,

but perverseness in it breaks the spirit"

Proverbs 15:4